In yesterday's Salon, Since You Asked ran a good question from a young woman. Here are the highlights:
At what point do I need to break the news that I'm a virgin? I'm not planning on having sex anytime soon, but I really like kissing and touching....
I don't want to lead men on, so I'm not sure what to do. Do I bluntly tell the man that I'm a virgin? If so, when? At what point do I give him the option of bailing? ...
When a guy buys me a drink, I want to just say, "Look, I don't blame you for trying, but I'll never sleep with you." I think sex is a healthy way to bond, have fun and so forth, but I'm waiting -- and while that is certainly my choice, what do I tell the guy?
Good question, right? Also, it seems like she's already figured it out for herself, but this is where it gets interesting:
There is also a slight complication -- I'm interested in power exchange. I like being dominated. Not in any serious or harmful way, but the idea of spanking turns me on, and I'd like to experiment with that. Do you see the predicament? I'm not a blushing virgin, but I am a virgin, and plan on staying that way for a while.
My first thought is go girl. Here's a great outlet for whatever turns her on – without actually Doing It. As long as she has a trusted partner, of course. What do you think? Mr. Since You Asked's rather hysterical (read: overblown) response is here.