"I had vaginal intercourse for the first time when I was 15. It took place after school in a teenage boy’s room and was altogether very unromantic and uneventful. When I was researching virginity and writing about it for my thesis, I was astonished by how much pomp and circumstance people expected from their first time.
While I don’t think there’s anything inherently harmful about wanting a special experience, I do think it’s dangerous to perpetuate the idea that losing it under unspectacular circumstances somehow compromises your dignity. It’s simply not true that the “magic” of first-time sex is irreplicable nor is it easy to delineate what even constitutes sex when you have purity pledgers engaging in rousing games of Just The Tip."
- Writer Lena Chen, answering a reader's question about how she lost her virginity. The reader recently had intercourse for the first time with someone she wasn't in a relationship with, and she's not sure how to interact with him now.