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V-Card Diaries: Nyxie "Your first time isn't any more significant than any other sexual experience you may have in your lifetime."

Today we're highlighting Nyxie who talks about pre-marital sex in homeschooler-land. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission page. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:

I'm an eighteen-year-old college student who was homeschooled all the way through high school and somehow turned out normal. I'm a fangirl, an aspiring writer, and completely unable to shut up.

How do you define virginity?

The state of not having had sex with anyone. I don't have a really concrete definition because I believe it's different for each person. I consider myself a virgin. I have absolutely no sexual experience. Never even kissed anybody.

Why have you decided to remain a virgin?

Here's the thing - I don't think about it. There are so many things that I need to worry about and my status as a girl who hasn't hooked up with anyone isn't really one of those things. I'm not "saving it" or anything. It just... doesn't mean much to me. In homeschooler-land, or at least the variant I encountered, the mere idea of losing your virginity before marriage is bad. I don't think that way. My friends, I am certain, will wait. I don't see it like that. Your first time isn't any more significant than any other sexual experience you may have in your lifetime, as far as I know. Maybe when I'm older, maybe once I've found a guy, I'll think differently. I don't know.

Any thoughts on virginity in our society?

It's overrated. If you're a virgin, you're viewed as naive; if you're not, you're viewed as a slut. Women can't win.

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