Our latest V-Card Diaries comes from Fae from Illinois who lost her virginity on New Year's Day with a close friend. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We'd love to run it in this blog! Tell us about yourself:
I'm 19, almost 20, and live in the United States. I'm a journalism and theatre student.
How do you define virginity?
A virgin is someone who has never had consensual intercourse. You can be a virgin after oral and you can consider yourself a virgin if you've been raped, because it wasn't your choice. Virginity is really a choice.
Tell us your story:
I lost my virginity two days ago, on New Year's Day. I was not drunk and I was not in a relationship with the man I lost it to. We are extremely close friends and had talked about having sex because we were both single. I thought it was better to give him my virginity, because I trust him more than anyone in the world, rather than lose it to a boyfriend who could later hurt me.
He is six years older than I am and ages ahead in life experience. So he really knew what he was doing and how to make it good for me and for both of us. Making sure I was okay with it, being careful not to hurt me, etc. We had done a few things before (and he was great at them) but this was the first time we went all the way. Also, with him being older, he isn't trying to prove anything. He isn't going to declare to our friends that we've been together, he's content with only us knowing. I do not regret my decision.
Any thoughts on virginity in our society?
Virginity is strange in our society. Half my friends had lost it already and the other half are waiting for marriage. I was the only one in the middle. People either thought of me as a prude for never having had sex or a whore for thinking about doing it outside marriage.
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