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V-Card Diaries: Young London "The main thing is to experience sex with someone you love at some point in your life."

Today we're highlighting YoungLondon from the United Kingdom, who wonders if there's any 'right' time to lose your virginity. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:

I'm 18 and from England, and I lost my virginity last year.

How do you define virginity?

To be a virgin means to not have had sexual intercourse with another person. I think that if you've had oral sex but not penetration, then you are still a virgin.

Tell us your story:

I lost my virginity to someone who I loved, but as 18-year-olds, we were and are not married. The big first time experience was not all that and I don’t think it really matters who your first time is with, as I think the main thing is to experience sex with someone you love at some point in your life. Sex is what you make it - fun, loving, exciting - so why just keep it in the 'marriage boundaries'?

Any thoughts on virginity in our society?

Society judges everything, especially virginity. For a male to be a virgin, where I come from, is bad. For a female to be a virgin is also bad. But if you've had sex younger than a certain age, then that's also bad. I feel as though there’s a time period in which to be a virgin is acceptable and when it’s not. Virginity is a personal thing and it's not fair for other people to judge and question what another person has, or hasn't, done.

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