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V-Card Diaries: Maddy "I was kind of desperate to lose it. I felt an insane pressure to be a person who had sex"

Today we're highlighting Maddy from Australia who wises she had listened to her mother's advice. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:

I'm 20 years old and from Australia

How do you define virginity?

A person who has not engaged in sexual intercourse. Mind you, I do not believe oral sex etc. is sexual intercourse.

Tell us your story

I was 19 when I lost my virginity and I was drunk. It was with a friend's friend who was younger than me. We both were drunk. Actually, I was kind of desperate to lose it. I felt an insane pressure to be a person who had sex. So, I did. The morning after, I didn't regret it. I don't really speak to the guy at all and I started sleeping with other people. I don't think it'll affect me until I find someone to fall in love with. I've never had a boyfriend, mainly just one night stands.

Any thoughts on virginity in our society?

It's ridiculous. I have some friends that are still virgins and I always say to them: WAIT until you find someone you LOVE. I wish I listened to my mothers advice, I guess! So much emphasis is placed on virginity. If you've had sex, you're a slut. If you haven't, you're a frigid prude. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.