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V-Card Diaries: Wallis "I don't feet sexually liberated because I've had sex, I feel sexually liberated because I'm happy with my sexuality."

Today we're highlighting Wallis in Texas, who wishes she had lost her virginity a lot sooner!  If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:

I'm an 18 year-old girl living in Texas, hoping to study art and theater in college, or maybe gender studies then law school, or maybe creative writing. Who knows?

How do you define virginity?

"Virginity" is such an outdated concept. The accepted definition intrinsically leaves out those whose sexual identities cannot be pinned down by "penetration." For many, other forms of sexual intimacy are in fact more intimate than intercourse itself, and many individuals may never experience the kind of "sex" that most of us have internalized as "real sex." Does that mean they are virgins? I'd certainly hope to see the thoughts on this and viewpoints of those other than cis-sexual individuals discussed in such a public forum as this film. Exposure and discussion can hopefully push for not only the acceptance of but active inclusion of trans individuals.

Tell us your story

I lost my "virginity" to my boyfriend about two months ago. Honestly, I wish I had done it sooner! Oral sex doesn't seem to be my thing, and ever since we've started having penetrative intercourse I feel way more comfortable sexually with him.

For most of my teenage years I felt really ashamed of being a virgin, thinking that I'd have sex at the soonest possible opportunity. Yet when I had the chance with one boyfriend, I didn't, and I ended up breaking up with him. Even when I started out with my current boyfriend, I was torn between the shame of having everyone at school know I was a virgin (I thought I was so lame) and having sex with my boyfriend when I wasn't particularly anxious to. Now I realize, "virginity" really doesn't matter. Other people's opinions don't matter either. I don't feet sexually liberated because I've had sex, I feel sexually liberated because I'm happy with my sexuality and my relationship, and I realize that this contentedness is a beautiful feeling that more people deserve to feel.