Today we're highlighting Dakora in Australia, who was surprised her ninth grade classmates were having sex, but feels "losing" one's virginity at any age shouldn't be such a big deal. We hope she lets us know how things turn out!If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:
I'm Dakota. I'm a 15-year-old and from Australia. I am in my second last year of high school. I am a virgin and I haven't done anything more with a guy than eye contact. Yes. You read that correctly. Eye contact.
How do you define virginity?
Technically, the loss of virginity is through vaginal sex only, but I find the term pretty flexible.
Tell us your story
It took me a while but I found out that people were having sex in the ninth grade. It was weird. I was still wearing tank tops under my school uniform shirt and the girl who sat two rows behind me in science had an eighteen year-old boyfriend with whom she had regular intercourse. Was everybody having sex but me?
I'm not gonna lie, I think about sex a lot. I'm not planning on waiting until I marry (if I even marry) or even until I love somebody. I think virginity is made a bigger deal than it is, and as a feminist, it's quite a sexist and misogynistic idea.
I don't know when I will lose my virginity. I don't know if I will lose it this year or even when I'm still in high school. Maybe I will be in my twenties. Does it even really matter?
Did I mention I like a cute 17-year-old Christian guy at work? I'll let you know how that turns out.