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V-Card Diaries: Alyssa "I think I might be asexual, because I never have any urges for sexual pleasure."

Today we're highlighting Alyssa in New York who feels pressure, especially in college, to lose her virginity. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. A little about myself:

19, Female, New York, College Student, Virgin, Asexual.

How I define virginity:

The physical act of intercourse. Doesn't necessarily require love or lust.

Here's my story:

I've been on dates and have had a few flings and hookups in my lifetime but I have never had the opportunity to lose my vaginal virginity. I think I might be asexual, because I never have any urges for sexual pleasure. I'm worried this is something I am going to grow out of later in my life and that I will want to start having sex with guys. I want to lose my virginity before that because of the social pressures of the modern world surrounding virginity; that there must be something "wrong" with us if we're still virgins when the majority of our peers are not.

Being in college, that is the case right now. Everything is about sex and I'm behind the game. The problem is, I want my first time having sex to be meaningful and with someone I have sexual feeling for. The thing is that this can't happen if I'm not receiving any sexual feelings. I don't feel like I can wait to start getting these feelings, because that may be a number of years from now.