Our latest First Person comes from Allie in California, who wishes that waiting for the right guy didn’t make her seem prudish in the eyes of others. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog. Tell us about yourself: I’m a 22 year [...]
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First Person: Allie “Is it so crazy that I want to be in love with the person I have sex with?”
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First Person: Sasha “I live in a house of sexually active females and I’m ‘The Virgin.’”
Our latest First Person comes from Sasha in California, who explains the reasons for her virginity as threefold. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog. Tell us about yourself: My age is 20 and I live in California. How do you define [...]
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“When the topic would come up among friends, I would sit blushing in the corner with nothing to say.”
“My virginity had to go! It didn’t matter who, it didn’t matter how. So when I found an interested party — a rather devastating boy who lived down the hall from me — I didn’t dare mention it. Why risk the transaction? I figured, Let’s just close the deal!” … “Thinking back on it now, [...]
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Repost: Dealing with the Big Reveal: Coming out as a virgin
Back by popular demand, here’s one of our most linked-to posts. This post originally ran in January 2011. Share your biggest older virgin myths here. I recently got a note from Ferrette (who did a wonderful First Person for us a while back) with this question: “Have you ever written any articles about the experience [...]
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Pssst…Wanna know a secret?
Psssst….wanna know a secret? There are lots of older virgins out there who are sure they’re the only ones. We’re exploring the shame and secrecy around older viriginity in the film, and it’s something I talk about in two articles that just came out, below. From an interview I did at HerFilm: “I could tell [...]
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First Person: JustAGuy “Sex will not only feel good, but will also affirm my masculinity and self-esteem”
Our latest First Person comes from JustAGuy in California, a doctor who’s re-assessing his virginity on the brink of turning 30. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog. Tell us about yourself: I’m a twenty-nine year old guy in California and [...]
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First Person: Lola “Now that I’m 24 and still a virgin, my morals have deserted me”
Our latest First Person comes from Lola in New York City, whose patience for the right person is dwindling. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog. Tell us about yourself: I’m a 24 year old college student from NYC. How do you [...]
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When it comes to losing their virginity, are boys more romantic, more ignorant or just more honest?
“The proportion of all American adolescents in their mid-teens claiming sexual experience has decreased, and for boys the decline has been especially steep” writes Amy Schalet in her excellent New York Times article about boys becoming sexually active later than expected. It’s a very timely conversation to be having about modern young men, one that’s [...]
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First Person: MM “It can be weird to be a late bloomer. Despite my late virginity, I have a high sex drive”"
Our latest First Person comes from MM in Virginia, a self-described “late bloomer” whose first sexual encounter was less fun than the bubble bath she took afterwards. But she loved the year of discoveries that came after. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in [...]
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First Person: Tony “I’ll go down in history as the guy who couldn’t get laid”
Our latest First Person comes from Tony from California who’s had financial ups and downs and once lost everything but his virginity. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog. Tell us about yourself: I am a 42 year-old virgin from Orange County [...]
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Fisrt Person: NHAB “I never thought I would be a 30-year-old virgin. I thought it would “just happen.”‘
Our latest First Person comes from NHAB from the Western US who hasn’t had much luck meeting potential boyfriends, despite some obvious awesomeness. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog. Tell us about yourself: I am a stylish and independent heterosexual woman [...]
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First Person: Matthew “Was my status as a virgin a significant factor in my breakups?”
Our latest First Person comes from Matthew from Maryland who’s been in two relationships with women who were also virgins. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog. Tell us about yourself: I’m a 25 year old male virgin living in Maryland. I’m [...]
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First Person: Sarah “I don’t agree with my mother that the doctor took my virginity when I got a pap smear.”
Our latest First Person comes from Sarah from Newfoundland. She’s 26 now, but this tale of doctors, mothers and pap smears happened when she was a couple months shy of 17. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog. Tell us about yourself: [...]
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First Person Update: Ferrette “Finally, going out of my mind with desire, I decided to give in to what I wanted.”
Our latest First Person comes from Ferette, who originally wrote a First Person in 2010 where she said she was ‘losing my virginity in slow motion. To me, throwing off your virginity isn’t like smashing a window, but ascending a flight of stairs.” She recently contacted us with an inspiring update (complete with German Chocolate [...]
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[Older Virgin Week] The guys who don’t participate in the bravado are looked upon as unmanly, gay or inexperienced.
Cable has Shark Week, we have Older Virgin Week! In honor of V-Day, by which we mean Virgin Day, all this week we’re reposting some of our favorite older-virginity-related stories. This post originally ran in December 2009. Share your biggest older virgin myths here. From time to time, we run a First Person culled from [...]
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[Older Virgin Week] Why doesn’t anyone ever talk about Edward Cullen’s virginity?
Cable has Shark Week, we have Older Virgin Week! In honor of V-Day, by which we mean Virgin Day, all this week we’re reposting some of our favorite older-virginity-related stories. This post originally ran in November 2011. Share your biggest older virgin myths here. Caption: Bella with Edward, the 107-year-old virgin On the eve of [...]
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[Older Virgin Week] For those trying to decide their college major…
Cable has Shark Week, we have Older Virgin Week! In honor of V-Day, by which we mean Virgin Day, all this week we’re reposting some of our favorite older-virginity-related stories. This post originally ran in March 2009. Share your biggest older virgin myths here. Thanks for the tip, EditorLisa! From forwardOn
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First Person: Belle “I will wait to have sex until the man who will be my husband makes his intentions clear”
Our latest First Person comes from Belle who is looking forward to enjoying sex, but only with the person she’ll marry. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog! Tell us about yourself: I am 22 and ready to be married. Not to [...]
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[Older Virgin Week] Should a woman hire a sex worker to lose her virginity?
Cable has Shark Week, we have Older Virgin Week! In honor of V-Day, by which we mean Virgin Day, all this week we’re reposting some of our favorite older-virginity-related stories. This post originally ran in January 2011. Share your biggest older virgin myths here. “I have never met a woman who raved about the experience [...]
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[Older Virgin Week] Tina Fey on being a virgin until 24 “I couldn’t give it away.” We doubt that.
Cable has Shark Week, we have Older Virgin Week! In honor of V-Day, by which we mean Virgin Day, all this week we’re reposting some of our favorite older-virginity-related stories. This post originally ran in October 2009. Share your biggest older virgin myths here. If you can’t see the video above, try this. Tina Fey [...]
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[Older Virgin Week] First Person: Allie “When I Decided Not To Be A Virgin”
Cable has Shark Week, we have Older Virgin Week! In honor of V-Day, by which we mean Virgin Day, all this week we’re reposting some of our favorite older-virginity-related stories. This post originally ran in October 2010. Share your biggest older virgin myths here. This week’s First Person originally ran on the blog Happy Bodies. [...]
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[Guest Post] “Two Become One: A Naked Look at Virginity” by Belle Vierge
By Belle Vierge Confession: Although I think of myself as an intentional virgin, that description is only partly true. While I am currently a virgin by choice, in the past, my virginity remained intact solely by lucky circumstance. But what do I even mean by “virgin(ity)” anyway? At this point in my life, I have [...]
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The Sundance Diaries, Part 3: Beasts, Imposters and Surrogates
Quvenzhane Wallis in ‘Beasts of the Southern Wild” We interrupt our regularily scheduled coverage of virginity to bring you this special dispatch: I’ve been going to, and writing about, my experiences at the Sundance Film Festival many of the last 11 years. This is part 3 of 3 of this year’s Sundance Diaries. Read Part [...]
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Radio segment on ‘Adult Virgins’ is an antidote to reality TV shows, but couldn’t they have booked even one older virgin who wasn’t religious?
The Canadian Broadcasting Corporation recently did a segment on The Current on Adult Virgins, which included one of the women from “The Virgin Diaries” reality show, who was Canadian. Host Anna Maria Tremonti moderated a conversation between 30-year-old Danielle Michaud, 42-year-old Tony Tarquinto, and an asexual woman identifying herself only as Sarah. The conversation was [...]
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First Person: Mia “I wanted to be in love with the guy, because who knows how I’d react—what if I fart or cry?”
Our latest First Person comes from Mia from California, who gives us a major wallop of wisdom on why losing virginity shouldn’t just about penis-in-vagina sex–especially if that’s not the way you get off. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog! Tell [...]
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First Person: Emma “I had totally swallowed the subliminal propaganda that girls shouldn’t want sex.”
Our latest First Person comes from Emma from Australia, who wonders how many people have seen their own vulvas. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog! Tell us about yourself: I’m a 23-year-old from Brisbane, Australia. I’m studying engineering at university, with [...]
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From our readers: April from Gray’s Anatomy is much more than the stereotypical ‘older virgin’
I don’t follow “Gray’s Anatomy,” so I’m really glad that reader TR introduced me to the character April, who also happens to be an older virgin. I wish that character was around when I was in my early 20s. I would have totally related to what she says in the clip above about wanting to [...]
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Older Virgin Shoutout: Did you see ‘The Virgin Diaries’ on TLC Sunday night?
We wrote about the trailer for ‘The Virgin Diaries’ a few days ago and it aired Sunday night. A lot of people were tweeting how ‘hilarious’ or ‘gross’ it was, so we can thank TLC for further perpetuating every stereotype about older virigns in the book. What did you think of the show? Share [...]
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The Virgin Diaries: Yet another group to exploit for ratings glory
TLC is doing a one-off show about adult virgins, and might spin it off into a series. Many people over 19 who aren’t sexually active already feel like total social deviants, unfortunately. Just read some of the comments on this post. Now TLC is helpfully piling on with a show that “takes you inside the [...]
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First Person: Relena “Afterwards, I decided to cheer myself up by watching The Daily Show”
Our latest First Person comes from Relena in New York City, who has some suggestions for post-’losing it’ activities. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. We’d love to run it in this blog! Tell us about yourself: I am a 27 year old white woman–originally from Michigan, but I [...]
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