Em and Lo's most recent Wise Guys is: Does It Matter If You've Slept With More People Than Your Partner?
We always enjoy a good ponder on the whole Slut/Stud conundrum. A study last year suggested the huge disparity between men's and women's self-reported numbers was statistically impossible. They theorized that men routinely up their number, while women reduce theirs – in order to fit in with cultural norms.
Some exerpts from the answers:
Straight Married Guy (Jamie): I may be somewhat in the minority here in that, while I have an extremely liberal philosophy about sex, I haven’t had a particularly high number of sexual partners (I was always a “girlfriend guy” and just didn’t rack up the big numbers)...Many of the female friends I admire most have had lots of sexual partners, but are also all well-adjusted, independent women.
Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): As a gay man living in a major metropolitan city, I’ve lost track of the amount of sex I’ve had. How then can I hold a partner to a different standard?...That said, I asked my straight cousin, whose wife has always been very sexually free, and he said that his biggest worry had been that their kids’ attitude toward sex would develop far too early as a result, but this has turned out not to be the case.
Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): Totally. He also cares if she’s stronger, smarter, or wealthier than he is. ...Truth be told, he’ll also feel a little bit jealous (it’s a big competition between guys since we were teenagers). And lastly, we want our girl to be a virgin slut, and we need to pretend that if we’re not the first, then at least we’re the best.
I'm not sure what to make of Joel's friend's fear of his kids' sexual development. But I love the comment left by KB about the caveman-esque Chris:
"There’s a simple solution for men like Chris. Don’t up your number with them. End of story."