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V-Card Diaries: ZK "Asperger's means social skills are not my strength"

Today we're highlighting ZK, who talks about sin, speed dating and why he doesn't feel he's missed out. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. What is your definition of virginity? Never having had sexual intercourse or oral sex.

Why have you decided to stay a virgin? I'm Catholic, and premarital sex is a mortal sin, capital M, capital S. I'm also a self-diagnosed Asperger's person, which means social skills are not my strength. I wouldn't want to inflict my Asperger's upon any sex partner. So much intimate interaction which leads to sex is based on body language -- and I can't read it! Small talk and being around women is work for me, and I spend 40 hours a week at my job as it is.

How have your dates/partners reacted? Other than "speed dating" I've never really had any dates/partners to speak of.

Anything else you want to say about virginity or our cultural attitudes towards it? Most of my sexually active/married friends don't seem to be any happier/fulfilled than I am. I'm 41 and I don't think I've really missed out on anything... If somebody told I'd NEVER be able to have sex in my life, I could live with that.

Tell us how you define virginity, how you lost/kept it, and anything else about the v-word. Email your answers to info*at*