Trixie Films intern Courtney writes about sharing our secrets:
I always find reading other people's secrets interesting, but secrets about virginity are much more enticing. Inspired by the Post Secret blog, here's a site that has a section of secrets dealing with virginity.
The secrets range from light-hearted virginity stories to more serious events:
Everyone thinks I am a slut but I am a 20-year-old virgin.
I'm having a really hard time accepting that I'm "that girl." The girl who lost her virginity to someone who meant nothing, and then never heard from him again.
The only reason I am still a virgin is that I like the idea of telling my kids one day that I only had sex with the one woman I so dearly love.
I, like many others, could sit for hours and read secrets from these strangers, but why is it so easy to have an obsession with other people's secrets? Personally, I think it gives us all a way to connect, with someone else who is struggling with the same issues as you (still being a virgin perhaps), or just seeing a funny secret that you share with someone. It's another way to make the world feel a little smaller:
I'm afraid that I wont ever get the chance to have "my first time" before I die. My only boyfriend lasted about a week, and even though deep down I want my first time to be special, I JUST WANT IT TO HAPPEN ALREADY. So that I can say I’m not a virgin anymore, is that stupid?. I think it would be a free feeling. Maybe it will happen, and maybe it won’t. You know that feeling of missing out, because it seems everyone around has already done it. When is my time, and why do I feel the need to rush it when I’m only 17. Be patient?
Writing these secrets can be a therapeutic experience. It allows people to express how they feel in an non-threatening environment on their own terms
I'm a 19-year-old virgin, but I lie to my friends about it and say that I've slept with 4 people. I just can't face being the only virgin in a group of people.
I was raped. Not only did he steal my virginity, but he made it so I am no longer able to say that I am STD free.
Sometimes its just fun to know you're reading something that the person sharing the secret has never told anyone before:
I lost my virginity at 13, and I don't regret it.
Thanks to the Virginity Project for the link.