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V-Card Diaries: "Let me make my first million and I'll have time."

Another installment in our series of V-Card Diaries interviews on virginity. We get a lot of stories through our comments and occasionally we share them here. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form I'm a straight 41-year old virgin male. How I got to this point in my life is a long story. (Hey, it's 41–soon to be 42–years worth of "baggage.")

The Cliff Notes version: I'm Asian, so as a kid growing up in "White" America of the late 60s, early 70s, I was pretty much ostracized. (Vietnam, Remember that little "police action?")

By the time I reached "dating" age (high school and college), I pretty much held to the notion that "education" in preparation for a GREAT career was EVERYTHING--and the ONLY THING that "mattered." In high school, I went to specialized, "magnet" school where most of the study body commuted, via NYC subways, every day.

And college was pretty much the same... I, along with all the "friends" I "hung out with" were all about studying and getting "the golden ticket" to a great career. So, by the time I was in "my prime" (the mid- to late-20s) it was all about the career. "Let me make my first million (dollars) and I'll have time."

Add to all this that I'm a devout born-again Christian and really do hold to a personal belief that sex is something special to be shared ONLY with someone who is truly a "soul mate"... And, well... let's just say that at this point in my life, I still haven't found that "special someone" yet. Corny? Maybe.

But I look around at my "peers" in my age bracket who, by now, have gone through one or two or more marriages and well... Just what exactly did I "miss"? During the wild 80s and 90s, there was too much emphasis with sex (Get it as soon as and as often as you can and damn the consequences!) and not so much on the "relationship" side of things.

Which leads me to wonder... Why is it that a majority of the focus is on old male virgins? Where are all the older female virgins? What is up with that?

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