I have been rendered speechless by this 'not tonight' abstinence underwear and the campaign to sell it to tween girls. Thankfully, Ms Magazine has parsed it for us:
"It isn’t just dumb, it’s dangerous. There’s nothing wrong with encouraging your children to choose abstinence before marriage; there is something wrong, however, with not empowering them with the knowledge and tools to make that choice and confidently communicate it to romantic partners. Without pulling down their pants...
This is ridiculously displayed in WWYMD’s promotional videos, which feature abstinence-friendly songs and wind-blown girls posing suggestively in their skivvies next to fully-clothed young men."
The full post is here and it's a great analysis how this kind of foolishness tangles up ideas of consent, education and communication.