Today we're highlighting Casey from New Jersey, who eventually rejected the value her upbringing placed on virginity. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:
I'm a 20 year old college student from New Jersey
How do you define virginity?
My friends and I always say that virginity is a state of mind. So many people have so many different concepts of what their virginity was that to me, a state of mind seems to sum it up pretty nicely.
Tell us your story
I lost my virginity at the age of 19 to a guy I was dating for 3 months. He broke up with me a week afterward, making me feel disgusting and used. Because of the way society treats virginity, my first thoughts after the break up were "I gave him everything I had and he rejected it."
This is a horrible thought to have. To feel like your one valuable asset is your virginity. But the way I was raised had me thinking that once I had sex, that was it. Especially because I was brought up very religiously, and my religion teacher taught the girls of my class to save it for our future husbands.
But as time passed I realized I am not my virginity. I am a person and I have value and I am worth so much more than I was lead to believe by my religious upbringing. My sense of value no longer is based on my value to men. And it's liberating as hell. I think that society needs to stop putting so much stress on virginity so no girls have to go through the horrible thought process I went through.