Today we're highlighting Hannah, a 23-year-old woman from Norther California who had sex for the first time two weeks into her freshman year. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:
I'm a 23-year-old female from Northern California.
How do you define virginity?
Never having had vaginal intercourse.
Tell us your story
Growing up, I was painfully awkward and shy around boys (as well as in general), since I went to an all-girls school for 9 years (kindergarten to 8th grade), then went to a co-ed high school that was predominantly female. I had my first boyfriend when I just turned 15, and we messed around a bit but never had actual sex.
Throughout the rest of high school, I never felt attractive to the opposite sex, except for randomly making out with boys at dances and parties. I felt frustrated and isolated, even though almost everyone else at my high school was also a virgin. I almost believed that sex would never happen for me.
I went off to college, and about two weeks into my freshman year, I got extremely drunk and high at a party and ended up hooking up with an older guy from another college in the back of his car. He called me for three days afterward to hang out, but I wasn't sure how I felt about the whole situation, having gone for so long without having sex, so I ended up ignoring him and never saw him again.
I was angry at myself for not waiting out for someone more meaningful, but then all my college friends started losing their virginity in a similar fashion, and I learned to embrace my sexuality. Since then, I have been with 17 men, including three serious boyfriends, and am now in a wonderful, committed relationship.