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V-Card Diaries: Nora "I come from Germany and I was always very ashamed to still be a virgin"

Today we're highlighting Nora in Germany, who is 23 and had satisfying sex with herself before she had sex with another person. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:

I'm 23 and I come from Germany. I was always very ashamed to still be a "virgin" until I had sex the first time two month ago. It happened that I've suddenly been very glad that I had sex when I really wanted it and that I didn't give in to what "the others" may expect.

How do you define virginity?

I don't really know. I think it's a term that describes a state that is before a person thinks he/she had sex. You also could ask: What is sex? I had satisfying sex with myself before I had sex with another person. And no matter if I have been a virgin or not, I am happy to have learned something about myself first.

Tell us your story

I had sex the first time with a man two month ago. And I enjoyed it. So I got on with it. I didn't wait so long, because I waited for "the one" (actually the man I enjoy sex with is not even my boyfriend), but I was afraid, had great self-doubt about my body and put pressure on myself because I haven't had sex yet. And I didn't trust anyone.

Those feelings started when I was 14. Two years ago things started changing. I can't tell the whole story, but the most important thing is that I feel much better today and I come to terms with myself more and more every day. Probably this is normal, you are never at terms with yourself in puberty. I met my "lover" at a party. We got along well and I had heartache because of another person and I didn't wanna sleep alone. So I took him home with me.

No, it didn't happen this night, I just slept in his arms and it felt so good. We kept in contact, we met again and I only got as far as I really wanted at the moment. So when I decided to have sex with him after three weeks, I really, really wanted it. It wasn't planned and we had better sex since, but it felt and still feels right. And now it doesn't matter that I have been a virgin for 23 years.