Today we're highlighting Anita in upstate New York, who had a tall boyfriend and likens her first time to getting a tooth pulled. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:
I'm a 20-year-old woman living in upstate New York.
How do you define virginity?
Whatever you think it is. I have lesbian friends that have never had a penis inside them, but they're certainly not virgins! For me, it was vaginal intercourse.
Tell us your story
I lost my virginity at 16 to a guy I had been dating for a few weeks. I went through puberty fairly early, and I had been wanting to have sex for some time, so it wasn't a hard decision to make. However, it was a truly horrible experience. My boyfriend was a foot taller than me, and accordingly was very "big"...it was literally the worst pain I'd ever experienced in my life. I didn't feel any different afterwards; it wasn't a rite of passage, it was more like a painful medical procedure, like getting a tooth pulled.
We stayed together for two years, and since then I've only slept with three other people, which seems like a small number compared to my friends. The most important thing I learned about sex is that women create our own sexual pleasure; counting on the guy to do all the work doesn't cut it (and they don't really know what they're doing, either).