Today we're highlighting Jess in Kentucky, who didn't really feel "sexually active" until after a few tries. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:
I am a 23-year-old woman in Kentucky.
How do you define virginity?
A sexual experience that marks the beginning of our sexual journey. It's different for everyone and may or may not be sex itself.
Tell us your story
I lost my virginity recently. Honestly, it didn't quite go down the way I thought it would. There was pain! So much more pain and blood than I expected. I freaked out even though we used protection because I was a week late. I wish I had known that was actually normal due to first time trauma with vaginal intercourse.
It maybe wasn't until after the third try that I didn't spot blood and get sore afterward. We took it slow and we were being careful, but it still just happened. I felt so embarrassed, but luckily he was right there afterwards to tell me everything was alright. It's fine.
Finally, on our fifth try I reached my first toe-curling orgasm. I am so glad I waited until I knew I was ready for vaginal sex, because I think if I'd tried to do it any younger I would have shattered from the physical and emotional toll.
I don't think of losing my virginity as one specific moment but instead that entire process that I went through with my partner to become a sexually confident person. I don't think just one experience defined me as "virgin" to "sexually active." Instead, for me, it took several tries before I felt I was "active."