Today we're highlighting Elizabeth in Denver, who is no longer terrified of penises and has finally found a friend to fornicate with to the sweet, whirring sounds of the TARDIS. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. Tell us about yourself:
I am a 20-year-old theatre student studying in Denver.
How do you define virginity?
I have actually spent many hours trying to come up with a definition of virginity and what it means to me specifically. Technically it is when penetration occurs for same sex partners but I think it can be more emotional than that. My views and definitions of virginity have changed as I entered college and really started to think about it.
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In high school I really viewed sex as this awful horrible thing that I never thought I would ever be mature enough to talk about. While everyone around me was talking about their first times, I was still terrified of penises. I never even had my first kiss until my first semester of college.
When I hit my senior year I discovered the joys of pornography and masturbation and my views on sex started to morph. When I went to college, I realized how horny everyone really was and how easy it was for people to fornicate. I had several people express interest in me and I respectfully turned them down.
My first year of college I also met this guy. We were in band together and we lived on the same floor. We became really good friends over the course of the year and something else was definitely there. We started casually dating and fooling around and I felt really comfortable around this guy and trusted him. Enough that I was willing to lose my virginity.
I spent a good two months beforehand thinking about it, and talking to him trying to make sure I was ready and I wasn't going to regret it. We tried once but I couldn't handle it. I didn't realize it would hurt so much. But the next weekend we tried again. We spent all night cuddling after he finished.
Looking back at my views from high school I never imagined I would just give it up to a casual fling. I had this image in my head that it would be perfect and romantic on my wedding night with rose petals and candles and romantic music. However, I am extremely pleased that I gave it to one of my best friends with Doctor Who playing in the background.