Today we’re highlighting Fern Lady in Berkeley, California, who had her most exploratory time when she was 5-7 years old, but never had a lover or seen a naked man after that. If you want to tell your story, go to our submission form. You can find all our V-Card Diaries here. A little about myself:
I am a 32-year-old woman. My hometown is Berkeley, California. I love every thing about the natural world and arts and crafts. I have been thinking/feeling out my experience in the world as a woman plus how I feel about my sexuality. I certainly identify as a woman and feel happy I was born a girl.
How I define virginity:
I feel it is tough for me to define, yet I do feel I am one. It's complex and confusing, and changes from person to person. I am still defining exactly what virginity is to me. I have experienced hugs and kisses on the cheek with family and friends. I have never had a lover of either gender, but am pretty sure I tend to be attracted to men. Friends, family, and community have been my life.
Here's my story:
When I was a young girl, I was very free of fear about my body and sexual exploration. When I was around 5-7 years old I hated clothes! I loved and relished going in my backyard totally nude. Sometimes my parents would say it was cold and to put clothes on. I'd come back out in a bathing suit only! I also took baths with the first boy I was friends with. We were one month apart in age. Then we began to explore the one area that was different on each other's bodies, again around five years/same age range as I mentioned before. That was my most exploratory time so far in my life. I have never had a lover or even seen a naked man. Sometimes I think of sex a lot and have an internal desire, but never act on it or risk losing what I consider virginity. Maybe someday my feelings will change.