VH1's News division is presenting a show on virginity this Thursday and Friday called "The New Virginity." From the description it sounds like they're focusing on celebrity virgins with a bit of Purity Ball and Natalie Dylan virginity auction thrown in for good measure.
They spoke to me way back when about being interviewed but it didn't pan out, however fellow virginity geek Jessica Valenti is on the show (although she cautions: "You never know how your quotes are going to be used, often out of context. So if you see me saying something horrible assume it’s not me, but the editing.") Jessica recently announced that there's a film being made based on her book "The Purity Myth" so I'm thinking a virginity film festival might be in order!
Culled from the finest celebrity gossip sites. Perfect for those breaking those awkward silences around the Thanksgiving table.
The Sexually Precocious:
From Flava Flav: "I lost my virgnity in the bushes on a box...I lost my virginity when I was 6 years old...yea, man. Becuase you know we learned to have done the nasty back in the days, and me and this girl we experiment, we were experimenting."
50 Cent lost his virginity at 12 after being seduced by an older woman. "I had sex for the first time when I was 12-years-old with a grown-ass woman. Like, 22. She wasn't really attractive...I was a big 12-year-old...and I had no idea what I was doing, but I was ready."
Johnny Depp had sex for the first time with a groupie at 13 in his band The Flame's van.
Rachel Bilson lost her virginity at 14 and says her sex therapist mother knew the next day. "She started talking to me about sex. She said 'It happened last night, didn't it?' I was like 'How did you do that?' She did the whole mom thing of course: Use condoms, etc. Weird, but helpful"
Angelina Jolie said she lost it at 14 to her first boyfriend. But when 'sex wasn't enough' she began cutting him with a knife.
Dustin Hoffman says he lost his virginity at 15 in a darkroom with a 20-yr old woman "who realized in horror it wasn't his older brother, Ronny."
Daniel Radcliffe lost his at 16 to an older woman. He said the age difference "wasn't ridiculous, but it would freak some people out."
Sienna Miller: "I had my first serious boyfriend when I was 16 and my mother made sure I brought him home...She didn't want me doing it outside and would say 'I'd rather you did it in my house if you're doing to do it at all' "
Disney's Contractual Virgins:
Selena Gomez (above with Demi Lovato and Miley Cyrus), 16, sometime girlfriend to one of the equally abstinent Jonas Brothers, wears a purity ring. "It's something I made a promise to myself, to my family and to God. People say 'She's trying too hard' It's so weird. I'm not trying to be anybody but myself."
Jordin Sparks wears a True Love Waits promise ring because "tempation is always there. It's about making the right choice and not putting yourself in that situation." And if you do have sex, you're a slut.
Britney Spears' mom revealed that Britney lost her virginity at 14 to a high school football star. Can't wait for the Cyrus tell-all book in 5 years.
Still Waiting for the Right Moment:
Gary Coleman, 39, is not having sex with wife Shannon Price because he doesn't want kids. He says he's still a virgin: "It'll happen when it'll happen. And it'll happen for all the right reasons. And no one is going to make it happen any sooner."
It's been an especially banner week for the sexualization of very young girls in the service of consumerism. Do I even need, at this point, to write about how damaging it is to a young woman to be offered such a narrow vision of what it means to be a sexual person? That presenting very young women in this manner only fuels the belief that they are fair game for men? That most of this warped mixed messaging is done in the name of selling shitty shoes, shitty shirts and even shittier music?
Miley Cyrus at the Teen Choice Awards
It's weird enough that everyone's favorite virgin does a classic stripper drop around a big shiny pole while singing her song "Party in the USA." Weirder still is that said pole is attached to a colorful kiddie ice cream truck. As an aside–and this may be so wrong of me to say–but she's such a fail in the sexy department, she actually makes me miss Britney. If you can't see the video above, click here.
The latest in a long line of tacky clothing for, really, anyone. In the words of Jezebel:
'Young-trending mall brand Hollister e-mailed pictures of its new girls t-shirts, which the chain calls "Hot and funny." We call slogans like "LEGAL-ISH" and "The twins are quite a handful," marketed at 15-year-olds, gross and inappropriate.'
Candies' new abstinence campaign
This is the winner of a contest to design a catchy new slogan. "I'm sexy enough to keep you waiting" ?!? I don't even know what that means! The Candie's Foundation's mission is "to educate America’s youth about the devastating consequences of teen pregnancy through celebrity PSA campaigns and initiatives" which consists entirely of the same old worthless abstinence-only scare tactics. It's important for America's Youth have the tools to say no to unwanted sex. But hey - there is another way to say no to unwanted pregnancy, too: Being taught to use contraception correctly.
And in other news...
In order to end a spate of bad luck, and on the advice of his fengshui master, a Chinese man set out to sleep with 100 virgin schoolgirls. Over the course of two years he raped 36 girls, of which six were under the age of 14, and the youngest was only 12. Described as a "former member of China's national legislature and once wealthy entrepreneur from Henan province," he was recently executed by lethal injection for his crimes.
"They are men. They have desires. They have testosterone. If they make a mistake, I'm not going to hate them. I don't think they are above or below being seduced. I would be foolish if I thought that. I pray for them."
Denise Jonas, mother of the chastity-ring-flaunting Jonas Brothers, on how she would feel if they had sex before marriage.
Presumably Mama Jonas imagines an army of temptresses out to ruin her sons. So - how would the reasoning of "They are women. They have desires. They have estrogen" fly? Yeah, we thought so.
Thanks to Feministing for running this awesome South Park clip. In it, The Jonas Brothers refuse to wear their purity rings, with dire consequences. As Feministing points out, "by focusing on purity these companies/singers are actually focusing on sexuality, just in a "safe" way."
"You know what? I was quoted saying I was a virgin, but I absolutely did not say that. That's nobody's business but my own."
Former 'Lizzie McGuire' star Hillary Duff, 21, talking to Maxim about an interview she gave in 2006. Maybe she was still Disney property two years ago and her corporate virginity pledge was still binding.
Sad to report Britney Spears turned down the role of the Virgin Mary in the upcoming comedy "Sweet Baby Jesus." Here's hoping Miley Cyrus is free.
The story centers around a pregnant 19-year-old unsure of her baby daddy who goes into labor on Christmas Eve in Bethlehem, Maryland. So far Lily Tomlin, Tom Green and Pierce Brosnan's son, Sean, have all signed on for the comedy.
"Britney read the script and she really liked it and really wanted to play the role of Mary," [French producer Philippe] Rebboah lamented to Fox News. "She isn't as scandalous in Europe as she is in the States, and I knew she would do a good job, but [people] were so against it and she was pressured. Then she ran into all the trouble with her family so we mutually decided the timing wasn’t right."
"I just wanna say, it's not bad to wear a promise ring because not every guy and a girl wants to be a slut, OK?"
Jordin Sparks, standing up for wearers of chastity rings, after a comedian made a joke about the ring-wearing Jonas Brothers. Didn't he understand that all Disney heartthrobs are contractually obligated to pledge their purity? And be really judgmental about people who don't?
Miley Cyrus is 15 years old - is it really appropriate to be showing her in such an obviously sexual pose? Not like photos of her flashing her bra is better, but this just seems creepier, especially since her family was right there when the shoot was taking place.
This is from Nancy Gruver at Girl Media Maven on the hyper-sexualization of young women:
Girls are barraged by sexualized images all around them and everyone they come into contact with in daily life is also surrounded by those images. The images viscerally teach "the importance of being sexy" if you are female. The images teach all of us that acting sexy is how girls/women can have power without being rejected as domineering or bitchy (see media coverage of Hillary Clinton for the way "non-sexy" female power is conveyed).
Now imagine the extreme confusion girls feel when they are surrounded by images promoting the power of female sexiness and at the same time are told that it's bad for girls to be interested in sex, to act sexy themselves, to dress sexy, etc. The real message being conveyed, of course, is that girls shouldn't want to be powerful.
What is it with Disney stars and their virginity? Makes us wonder if the standard contract includes an abstinence pledge rider. Britney's chastity is off the table, but speculation about the Jonas Brothers and Miley Cyrus has more than filled the aching void. The always-classy Perez Hilton ran a poll the other day on whether Miley would remain a virgin until marriage (as she has pledged). Not surprisingly, the results from his over187,000 cynical readers are:
She's probably already lost her virginity (56%)
Lisa found this great quote in the Rolling Stone cover story on Britney Spears. The story is full of all kinds of juicy tidbits from anonymous sources, like the fact that Britney actually lost it at 14 (which she denies), but overall it's pretty depressing. She's clearly dealing with mental illness and there's nothing in her current life that will help that situation.
If Britney was really who we believed her to be — a puppet, a grinning blonde without a cool thought in her head, a teasing coquette clueless to her own sexual power — none of this would have happened. She is not book-smart, granted. But she is intelligent enough to understand what the world wanted of her: that she was created as a virgin to be deflowered before us, for our amusement and titillation.
The Jonas Brothers were on our favorite show Dancing with the Stars last night, which seemed to The American Virgin like a giant clash of the demographics. Then again, Hannah Montana's dad was a contestant last season and one of those Jonases has been linked to Miley Cyrus. Most importantly, they are all owned by Disney, which translates to big, brilliant, synergistic luvfest.
TAV has a special interest in these guys, and not entirely because we're dirty old women. The Jonas boys (16, 19 and 21) have taken virginity pledges and wear their purity rings proudly. Nick, ever the company boy, told US Magazine he got his at Disney World. Disney does love its virgin pop stars, but it's pretty refreshing when they're guys. So no sex till marriage for The JBs. We'd love to interview the boys and ask them exactly what their definition of sex is.