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What is the cost of shame in our society? A story-sharing project invites you to speak the truth about your sex life.

I want to let everyone know about a great story-sharing campaign led by Melissa Tapper Goldman, the director of Subjectified, an oral history of sex from the point of view of nine diverse women. We first wrote about the film back in 2009, long before we got to know the fabulous Melissa in person.

Now, Subjectified wants to hear your stories as well, so for the rest of November they've got a tumblr called Do Tell where you can share your experiences. Things like: How often you think about sex, how do your feelings about your body affect your sex life, what impact sexual assault has had on your life, and a lot more.

Here's Melissa to tell you more:

What is the cost of shame? What do we lose when we aren’t able to talk about sex openly? Sexuality is a part of all of our lives, and sex is pervasive in media, advertising and popular culture. But authentic and diverse expressions of real sexuality, particularly women’s, are depressingly lacking. What parts of our sex lives are silenced? What would be different if we could speak openly about all aspects of our sexual lives?

Let’s find out. This month, Subjectified is hosting an international story-sharing series called Do Tell, inviting people to anonymously submit stories about their sexual histories. The project started with the documentary Subjectified, where nine very different young women from around the US spoke up about their sexual lives, breaking stigmas and creating compassionate conversations. Now, we’re inviting everyone to participate with the Do Tell story-sharing campaign.

Please share a story about your sexual self, up to 350 words. Why? Because we live in a sex-saturated culture with precious little honest and authentic discussion of sexuality. Because speaking our truths, with all their complications and imperfections and beauty, challenges a culture of shame that impacts us every day. Because our voices and our histories matter.

Check it out. I know you love to tell your stories!